-Friday, January 16, 2009
Well just came home from work, first time having OT cause of some problems. Anyway, was discussing with my colleagues about their children about some issues related to kids nowadays.

First topic was:
"Should parents pay their kids University fees by cash?"

This particular colleague of mine got retrenched and was compensated an amount of money. The son got to know about it and started calculating how much was she being compensated. Upon knowing the amount, he decided to as her to pay his SIM school fees by cash.

She told the son this,
"This is my retirement money, if i used it, what am i suppose to do when i get old?"

The son said,
"I will pay you back when i work la"

My colleague:
"Why not use bank loan?"

Son:
"I calculated already, bank loan need to pay interest and the current interest is high. Borrow from you first, dont have to pay interest, save up the interest money"

I was thinking that, yes the bank interest is high but it's always better to have cash to standby in case of emergency. It's not as if you cant pay the interest, and also if you wanna save money, you wouldnt go to private University. You would think twice about going to Private U and instead study hard and go into a local U which you have to pay a lower amount of school fees.

I told her this:
"Do you think your son will really return you back?"

I agree that parents dun mind about the money because it's for them to study and not wasted somewhere else. But parents should make sure their children keep their promises to make sure they have a sense of responsibility and not take things for granted.

After chatting, she told me that the son said that he will pay back $200 every month when he starts working. I told her that $200 is just for his Uni school fees and it's right that he return to you but how about the money he is supposed to give you? As a working adult, arent he supposed to give additional money on top of that $200 to take care of the both of you?

I advised her to go back and discuss with her son about this money issue. Talking about money usually hurt feelings of both parties but still this problem is regards to the son's character.

I agree that parents should pay for the child's school fees but parents have their limits. They still need some savings for their own because no one knows whether their children will take care of them.

Son and daughters always say this,
"I will earn lots and lots of money next time and take care of the both of you when both of you are old"

But how many comply and keep their promise? It's heart wrenching to see people give empty promises. So dont say things too early, nothing can be confirmed.


The next topic was:
"Should son get a girlfriend when he's young?"

Another colleague of mine was sharing with me about this issue. She said that last time she dont mind her son getting a girlfriend at any point of time but her thinking started to change.

She told me that as a guy, one should be responsible for their parents, regardless of young or old. She said that few of her friends' son started to lose this sense of responsibility when they have girlfriend.

When they started to date when they have not incurr that sense of responsibility for the family, they will lose focus on the family. Their sense of responsibility will shift to the girlfriend's side instead of the parents.

I am saying this with personal experience, some guys are born to be a good boyfriend while some are born to be good husband and it's rare to find guys with both capability.I can be a good husband but not a good boyfriend, dont ask me why, i cant explain it clearly. I have also discussed this with some FOT guys, they should know what i mean.

It's a boring Friday night, nothing much to do!
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